Mostly because they are getting some positive reinforcement from their brains-usually a flooding of dopamine (the feel good neurotransmitter). Lastly, violence, drugs and vices are not usually seen as negative experiences by the people who partake in them. It's quite possible that this is because we like adrenaline rushes (and that's why adrenaline junkies exist). If you tell a kid "no" to something, what are they going to try and do? They'll find a way to do it. Nightmares release the same chemicals and wake us (very quickly) from sleep.Īll of that said, as to why we "seek" risky behaviors, that's all human nature. This is the same reason that we are more inclined to remember nightmares rather than dreams. Generally speaking, positive emotions don't put us into fight or flight mode unless we perceive something as a threat. Both of those stimulate our nervous systems to enter fight/flight mode-this is a heightened state of arousal. Secondly, negative emotions are associated with the release of a lot of different neurotransmitters and hormones, such as cortisol and epinephrine (adrenaline). Whereas if something bad happened, you definitely want to tell the world, right? Most of the time, if you had a decent experience somewhere, unless the experience was exceptional you're probably unlikely to post about said experience. One thing I often tell my patients is that we notice negative events more often because the positive stuff is happening all the time. Please remember that this information is a generalization based off of existing research and observation of humans-there are always exceptions to any rule. I'm a doctoral candidate in clinical psych and a therapist, so here's my two cents on this phenomena. That book may help you come to some sort of understanding of why this may of happened, & honestly I think this book should be required reading for young folks. This whole situation reminds me of a book called The Gift of Fear. I think maybe there couldn't have been a good outcome, just degrees of bad. It sounds to me like everyone involved is mentally sick, and it's sad all around. What happened as a result of that is not your fault. All you did was ask the police to check on your sister. As for her inlaws, I doubt they can make a lawsuit stick.
You may have saved your sister's & her son's life, even if she won't thank you for it. Anyone who knows anything about guns and the law is that once you raise a gun to a cop they will shoot. I'm wondering if he was trying to commit suicide by cop. Doesn't matter if it was loaded it not, no cop is going to wait to find out because waiting can cost a life, theirs or an innocent. Your sister's husband was dumb enough to raise a gun to a cop. They only supposed to do that when there's a danger to themselves or others. What you said may have given them concern, but to be concerned enough to pull a firearm is another matter entirely. They heard enough when approaching the scene to feel like the situation was dangerous enough to pull out their weapons. All the police were doing is investigating a situation.
Your sister is in heavy denial about the abuse she's been suffering.
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